Serious help needed here :(

[Bubble]

well...where do i begin? Seriously. Well i've been with my other half for just over 7 months now. A long distance relationship. It works fine as we have skype phone calls yada yada and see eachother every holiday. I like it coz i can have time to myself whilst in the other relationshis i could. My last relationship was abusive and my ex is now with my best friend and they taunt me and so on...pahtetic really but it still hurts the fact he did what he did to me then my best friend doesnt care less and gets with him ....Anyway, my current boyfreind is a bit....well we argue nearly everyday! I'm not aloud to talk to any other boys, i wernt even aloud to get my yearbook or shirt signed when i left school by boys! I was brought up around them! So he tells me i can't talk to boys i say fine you're not aloud to talk to girls (play his game) he says he dont talk to them anyway...okkaayyy then Next, he keeps bringing the past up. there was this...inscident a few months back with my abusive ex, he came on my doorstep, i was home alone and well he took advantage. I was in no state coz i was mournign the loss of my grandma to cancer. so he came in and did what he did best, thretaning and got sumthing out of it, i blame myself i mean i shouldnt have let him in i should have called the police but nothign will come out of whishing to change things. For my birthday, me and my two friends...who are girls...were gonna go to ann summers, primark, you know a girly day shopping. I dont go out with friends at all coz i dont want to so i thought id treat myself for once. He says oh well i wont text you then hope you have fun...so im nto aloud to have fun without him? He says 'oh i bet there are loads of guys there' and stuff like that. Usualy followed by 'well do what you want with who you want'...how am i to respond to that? I'm starting collage soon and he says like well there are probs loads of guys there, so yea good for you, you migfht meet some better guy....i keep telling him there will be no guys when we btoh knwo that isnt true coz i mean come on, what are the chances of an all girl class in media production deploma class? nill! I always sound annoyed acording to him....i dont...then he says alright im not arguing with you sarcasticlly... if we have an arguements about anything (like we do each day) he says i'll call you back when you have calmed down when im fine. He then calls me back and is like 'have you calmed down now?' i mean...what??? but other times we would be fine have loads of laughs...hes 19 btw thought id let you know lol. oh yea his mum hates me when she dont even know me, threatans to kick him out, she calls him a lot fo bad stuff and well the way she talks to him shouldnt be aloud! I'm starting to hope i will find someone else in collage but i mean me and him, well we call eachother soul mates. I dont wanna lose him and even he said as much as we argue he dont wana lose me. So i don't wanna split up and nor does he everyone says we are perfect together. we just need to stop arguing, personaly i think its the distance, but he is moving in with me next yer well me, him and my mums friend who is like a dad ot me bill, we're getitng a flat together. so its all good. i dont want to lose any of that! that isnt even half of it lol erm.....yerr...help?

[Rikwe]

You'r better helf should never tell you what you'r allowed to do imo. In a relationship there should be respect for the other part and you souldent try to change you'r partner. When you'r with the right person you might want to change, but then it's for you and it's you'r decition. I was with a very jelous person arround 5 years of my life and I regret not ending it earlier, I only found out what I was worth when I met my husband.
You are worth much more than it sounds like you think you are /hugs

[Baobie]

Well, first of all, your "best friend" who got with your abusive ex boyfriend doesn't act like how a best friend should. I'm sure she was there for you when you told her the stories of him being abusive. In my opinion, you should end your relationship with your ex and your "best friend." Keeping contact with them seems to just make your life so much harder.

As for your relationship, It's long distance. I totally understand how that is because i was in one. But how did you and your current boyfriend meet? My boyfriend and i lived 1,000 miles apart, and so i know how hard that must be for you. We were about the same age as you and your bf when we met. We met 4 years ago and we're still together. I admit the first couple months were definitely hard. We argued all the time, but we both felt that we were right for each other. Then suddenly, we just realized what we have is good, and it's going to take a lot of work because it's a long distance relationship. After three and a half years of a long distance relationship, we're finally living together and we're truly happy.

Relationships in general are hard, but long distance relationships are harder. You must keep in mind that communication is most definitely the key. If you and your bf aren't communicating, it won't work. And if only one of you is trying to make it work, it won't work. You need the cooperation and communication on both sides. He needs to start trusting you. If he thinks that everytime you're going out, you're gonna meet a new guy, or if you're talking to a guy friend, you're interested in him, He really needs to get a reality check. If you wanted to meet another guy or if you're interested in a guy you already know, Why would you waste your time on your boyfriend? Your boyfriend doesn't even live near you and you're giving your time to him. You're interested in him and until he realizes that, things are only going to get harder on you. But make sure that you take care of yourself. Sometimes long distance relationships just don't work. If you feel that trying to get through to him is pointless, it probably is.

I wish you the very best. And I definitely admire your strength in removing yourself from your abusive relationship and the will to have trust in your long distance relationship. <3 You definitely deserve much more than how your current boyfriend is treating you, but it's up to you to decide if he's worth it. *Hugs*

[inaraskye]

Ur new boyfriend is an abusive douchebag just liike ur old one. U need to dump ur new jerk and stop dating for a while. A girl who lets a guy tell her what too do has low self esteem. Y0u will always date the same douchebag until you get your self esteem back. Then when u meet a good guy you will never let him go. I kno from experience.. Now im married to an amazing man. And honey he is all real man. Hes not violent but hes strong and sweet.. You will date a few douchebags until u realize what a real man is. Good luck

[makeup reviews]

i agree with inaraskye, i think you are right.