So confused on what to do

[beachsunsets]

Hello all! This might be a long one so I am sorry for that.
OK here is my story and dilemma
I have a male friend who has been my best friend for at least 10 years now and we both love each other very much and tell each other as well. We truly beleive that we are soul mates and are so glad we have found each. Ok now on to the problem at hand. He has been waiting on approval for paperwork to move to the US (we are in Canada). Well the visa has been approved and he has started the paperwork process.....but the weirdest part is that he dropped by today out of the blue and everything was great until he was leaving when he pulled the paper (which showed his visa approval) and handed it to me. Knowing we could not talk about it because he had to leave......
I honestly don't want him to go, but not sure how to tell him that....I do not want to hold him back from what he wants to do, but I do love him and my heart is breaking.....I guess I am just confused on what to do now. he dropped this bomb on me today when he knew he had to leave and I couldn't even react to it before he was out the door......what do I do now? Ask him to stay, tell him I don't want him to go, or say nothing and let my heart break everyday...............

[AvonFromGG]

why dont you be spontaneous and go with him?? start your paperwork!

[beachsunsets]

LOL it is not that easy....I have a son and my family is here and I do not want to move....the crazy part is that I think he is making a big mistake and stands to lose alot if he goes......he is running away from stuff here

[AvonFromGG]

then you should sit him down for a serious talk and just voice your opinion... you might regret it if you don't

[beachsunsets]

thank you....I know in my heart that is what I need to do, but I am just scared that he will be angry with me and I would hate to leave it that way....honestly I want him to stay, but that is alot of pressure on a relationship I think I realized today that not only do I love him, and know we are connected, I think I am in love with him and that scares the hell out of me.......

[LipGlossy]

if i were you, i would never tell him how much i want him to stay until and unless he said me that he wanted to stay and live with me. Why would i insist on going with him when he has not even offered. Seriously talking 10 years is more than enough to understand one and another. He must know how much it will hurt you when he leaves you.
So better start with some attitude toward him so that he may start the discussion and come to the topic openly.

[beachsunsets]

I agree, the last thing I want to do is "ask" him to stay. I know he knows it will hurt me deeply if he leaves, because we do know each other so well. and Going with him...that is not an option. I know we have to talk about it open and honestly, just don't know where to start. Hopefully you are right and he will start the dicussion, then I can say the million things I want to say, I need to say, because I don't want to go the rest of my life knowing I had a chance to tell him and I didn't. Crazy how you realize how much you truly love a person, when the timing is going wrong.........

[jodiGirl]

Talk to him. Things left unsaid are regrets in the making.

[Cosmetology Campus]

then you should sit him down for a serious talk and just voice your opinion... you might regret it if you don't

I agree but never hold him back. I mean both of you should grow together - even if you live apart. It's easier said than done but I did it already. The sad thing though, it never worked out. I found out that he's been living with another girl after I flew all the way to the country he's working. Anyway, I don't regret it because I was able to do what I wanted before and now I have someone new and so dear. If you can, follow him and if it failed, atleast you tried your best and showed effort that you wanted to be with him.

[devilmafia11]

if i were you, i would never tell him how much i want him to stay until and unless he said me that he wanted to stay and live with me

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