Helllpp!!
I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and i do love him. but hes boring and never wants to go anywhere and when i am with him all he does is read or go on xbox, we hardly even have a conversation. he never used to be like this.
But theres another lad who likes me and i really like him i cant stop thinking about him! im only 18 and i dont know what to do! any suggestions? thanks
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Love can make you stupid and stay with people long after you've both grown apart. I'm much older than 18, but I can tell you, you're young, far to young to stay in a relaionship you're not happy in any longer. In life you only get one choice, be happy or be unhappy. If you're not happy, or can't see yourself with your current boyfriend 10 years from now, move on. It can be very tough, but it's better in the long run.
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i experienced the same thing but u just have to convince ur boyfriend to stop being lazyy let him knoww everytthing
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A leopard can't change his spots as they say. And I've spent too many hours trying to change people. kirsty92 says she's only 18, and has been with him for 4 years, she's so young, it'd be a shame for her to spend more years trying to change someone. They're both so young they're going to grow up and change themselves - it happens.Originally Posted by hamzacofi
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The same thing happened to me as well. I chose the other guy and broke up with my boyfriend. I never regreted it. How can you say you love your boyfriend, if you can't stop thinking about someone else? No offence, but that was the question I asked myself when I had to decide.
It ist your life, and if you want to life as an old couple, then try to change him. But you are young, try your luck and choose the risk.
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Have you ever tried talking to your boyfriend about how you feel about the relationship? COMMUNICATION is the key. 4 years is a really long time to be with someone and the fact that you are only 18 ... that is pretty amazing. I would say that it all comes down to your happyness. If you are currently unhappy, then what is the point in going any further with the relationship?! If you really want to make things work with your current boyfriend, you need to talk to him.
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I think this is a very good piece of advice. If I were you, I would be totally honest with him. If you´ve been together for that long, you should at least give each other the chance to talk about the weak points in your relationship. Communication is issential, without it relationships are not based on good pillars. Whatever happens afterwards it´s not that important. I do also agree with jodigirl, we should only have the choice but to be happy! Good luck. You´ll be finex
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When your that young love is just puppy love. You will find someone else (this new guy ^_-) and you will get heartbroken but in the end its all worth it because life would be boring without a bit of
ups and down. Maybe the guy you are with now is not the guy you LOVE but you LOVE him in a new way like a friend etc.
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I think your way to young to be in a long relationship. To be honest your gonna get hurt and your gonna laugh and love and all the ups and downs are the best part about life. Maybe its time to let go and experience
something new. Love comes in many different forms, you love your bf now but maybe its a different love?
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talk your boyfriend about it
Last edited by devilmafia11; 07-22-2011 at 11:49 AM.
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Im about your age, and hun when you can't enjoy being with your partner whats the point? I mean there meant to be your best friends as well and you wouldn't be friends with anyone you can't connect with or enjoy doing things with would you? Sometimes people outgrow each other even after many many years but thats how things go so just have a good think about this a decide whats best for you. All the luck shannon.ox
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Tell him what you feel and sort it out.
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