Frustrated and need to rant...

[jamandjelly]

I know this is a forum more for questions, and I am such a new member, but I've been feeling more and more like things are hopeless for me so hence the rant. Last night feels like it was just one more reason why I'll be alone forever soI'll put it as bluntly as I can.

I'm 25 and never had a serious relationship. In my life. I've dated in high school and had a few relationships that only lasted a couple months, but at 25 I can honestly say I've never been incredibly serious with anyone, let alone ever been in love. I've been on an online dating site for a few months and had a few blind dates, as well as meeting my now ex who I was only with for like 2 months. But other than that, nothing. I have only a couple of guy friends, but even with the guys at work I feel like I'm one of those simple girls that they can talk to and joke with, yet I'm still not dating. I have my BFF whose been there with me every step of the way, and she keeps pushing me to not give up, but I'm finding it very hard. So many of my friends are either engaged, married, or already have families with kids, and here I am not even to get a boyfriend. I had a blind date last night with one of the guys I have been talking to for a little while online and through text. I think he's a great guy, and even though we were both a little nervous, I had fun. But I just get this feeling that he's just not really interested. It's just little things that happened and maybe I'm just being my pessimistic self, but I just have that feeling, you know?

Anyways, I am trying to keep my confidence high and not think that I'm ugly or undate-able, but I'm starting to wear a little thin. People who hear that I'm on dating sights are flabbergasted that a 25 year old would have to resort to that nowadys. And the fact that it's been months and still I am single, well lets just say I'm starting to feel pretty darn bad about myself. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to expect that finding someone will be easy cause I know it's sometimes not that simple, but at the same time I don't want to continue feeling like a leper just because I'm 25 and still single even with all the things I am doing. People who know my situation and are around me are making me start to feel like some desperate woman, even though I know I'm not, and I also feel like no one understands what I'm going through.

Sorry for the longness. I'm just not in a very good place emotionally right now I guess.

Sincerly,

Frustrated

[J3ssiGurl]

I just finished reading your rant and your BFF is absolutely right. You should not lose all hope and don't give up. It's going to take a lot of time until you and the person that you are supposed to be with will cross paths. If you are expecting it to happen right away, it won't. Trust me, things will happen for you when you least expect them to. That's how my boyfriend and I met. When I met him, I didn't think at all about getting into something serious. I just thought that we would be great friends. But as we got to know each other more and more, things just started to click very naturally. Just know that the special person out there is out there somewhere and will be crossing your path when you guys are meant to meet each other. The hard part is patience, but trust me, it will be worth the wait .Good luck!